The way life happens is first being, then doing, and then having. You are going the "having-doing-being" way, which leads to an endless pursuit of having. This is the basis of an unfulfilled life. The way life happens is first being, then doing, and then having. But right now, people always think first of having. For example, when you were at a certain stage of life, you may decided that you want to have a certain kind of life that includes a certain kind of partner, a house, a car and whatever else. Then you think, "How can I have all this?" The moment you start thinking how to get it, that is when you start moving against life. You are going the "having-doing-being" way, which leads to an endless pursuit of having. This is the basis of an unfulfilled life.

You must first establish your way of being. Then, whether you get to have what you desire or not, you will still be wonderful. The quality of your life is decided by your way of being. What you get to have is only a question of capability and situations that are conducive. If you make this simple shift to "being-doing-having," then a large part of your destiny will be by your will.